Dr. Jim Concludes his reading of Bowenian Chapter on Differentiation of Self, Part 4:

            When the custody evaluator can remain "anchored in emotional neutrality" in writing it up, the result can promote more reasoned and regulated "self-determined direction" and listening where "pressuring for agreement or to have [one's] way" is discarded in favor of finding solutions to the problem. That is to see where win-win is possible. Kerr and Bowen (1988) wrote "There is no limit to emotional neutrality. It is broadened each time human being can view the world more as it is than as he wishes, fears, or imagines it to be." (p. 111).


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