Dr. James Husen, Licensed Psychologist, Licensed Attorney, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

               I've been thinking about character lately. We sometimes use the term loosely as in "that guy is a character". What I mean is the more serious use of the term as in "she has character". Right now, I'd say Character has something to do with striking a balance between being an individual and a member of a larger group. I'd also say as I sit here this morning that character has to do with remaining true to one's identity, especially when tempted by circumstances or contradictory feelings to act out of character . John Wooden (2005) wrote about the difference between character and reputation. He said reputation is what others think about you; however, "character is what you really are." (p. 46)                Wouldn't it be nice to grow in character? That is, get in greater touch with who you really are -- your "true self" as Winnicott (1960) said? It's not about behavioral modification. It's about the

          What does it mean to have a therapist? First, it means you have a professional in your corner in the boxing match of life. As your therapist I am here for you. In this regard I am like a good (as opposed to a rejecting, dismissing or downright abusive) parent. Second, it means you have someone to whom you can be real and genuine with. Carl Rogers (1961) emphasized one particularly unique element good therapists provide their clients--they provide them with "unconditional positive regard" (p. 47).            I like the boxing match metaphor because it emphasizes an important point. My role as a therapist is quite different from that of Lawyer. As a lawyer I am like a gladiator, medieval priest and Roman orator in one--you might even throw in sorcerer in that we utter magic words to get higher powers to work on our clients' behalves. Comparatively, as a lawyer I am quite directive. As a therapist though, I rarely give advice. Advice is generally not therapeutic. T